“I think my daughter is getting too much screen time,” a friend of mine declared a few days ago, as we were settling down for a meal at a restaurant with our families. As she said this, she simultaneously proceeded to whip a tablet out of her handbag and place it in front of her toddler, “so that the adults could have a good chat.” I don’t blame her; I used the same strategy many times when my children were younger, and I too felt guilty about it.
Since then, however, I have researched the topic in depth, partly because this is something parents and colleagues often question. As an educator and a scholar, I felt that I owed it to parents to have specific, scientific answers that would help them make informed decisions about the welfare and development of their children. What I found is, I believe, good news for parents.
First of all, we need to carefully define what we mean by “screen time”. There is a world of difference between a child who spends hours bent over a tablet watching YouTube videos unsupervised, and a child who is playing an age-appropriate video game with a sibling. “Screen time” is too vague a term: it can include television, games, videos, homework on computers, educational apps, etc. The kind of screen time a child is getting is actually more relevant than the time spent on a screen as such. The following rules can help parents be more discerning about their children’s screen time.
Screen time that can be beneficial includes:
Screen time becomes a problem when it prevents children from doing sports, playing with their friends or siblings, playing outside, reading, doing their homework or communicating with others, face to face. In the case of my friend’s toddler at the restaurant, I gently suggested that we spend a little bit of time playing with her and reading her a book before our meal arrived. Her daughter was all smiles and babble, and then she got very busy making an extraordinary mess with her food and getting lots of laughs and attention for it; none of this would have happened had she been stuck on a tablet. After the meal, she did get a little restless and grumpy, at which point her mother gave her the tablet to play with so we could have a conversation over coffee. I thought this was a balanced way to deal with the issue of screen time, and I got to have fun with both the little girl and her mother.
A final aspect of the debate on screen time is that we must recognise that technology is not going to go away. Keeping our children away from screens altogether will, in the long term, keep them away from many opportunities. Screens have replaced libraries, dictionaries, textbooks, educational documentaries and so on: it would never cross our mind to ban these sources of knowledge, so why would we ban the screens that have replaced them? However, we also have a responsibility to show our children what an appropriate and balanced use of technology looks like.
By far the most powerful tool we have to raise our children is our own behaviour: children copy what they see, much more so than they listen to what they are told. In other words, if we tell our children to stay away from their screen, but we spend hours on our phone or computer in front of them, we are wasting our breath. Small details like putting our phone down when we have a conversation, giving children our full attention and eye contact when we greet them, or forbidding screens at the dinner table for the entire family, can make a big difference. I cannot tell you how many times I have hidden my phone under a cushion and ostentatiously picked up a book when I heard my children coming home.
Computers and tablets are, in many ways, better than the television sets they are quickly replacing: the experience they offer is much less passive, more challenging for our brains and bodies, and altogether more educational. Instead of banning or severely restricting screen time, let’s become the technology-savvy parents our children need: discerning, informed, available and balanced in our own use of technology.
Sources and recommended readings on screen time:
NANCY LE NEZET IS PASSIONATE ABOUT INTERNATIONAL EDUCATION IN GENERAL AND IB IN PARTICULAR: SHE TAUGHT VARIOUS IB SUBJECTS FOR 12 YEARS, CONDUCTS IB WORKSHOPS, LEADS TEAMS OF EXAMINERS AND WAS THE AUTHOR OF THE IB PHILOSOPHY TEXTBOOK. AS WELL AS TEACHING, NANCY HAS HELD CURRICULAR AND PASTORAL LEADERSHIP ROLES IN IB SCHOOLS SUCH AS GODOLPHIN & LATYMER IN LONDON AND INTERNATIONAL SCHOOL BANGKOK IN THAILAND. NANCY'S MOTHER TONGUE IS FRENCH AND SHE SPEAKS ENGLISH, SPANISH AND SOME BASIC THAI AND JAPANESE. SHE IS ACCOMPANIED BY HER HUSBAND ADAM, WHO TEACHES ART, AND THEIR TWO CHILDREN, SELENA AND ANTON.
NANCY JOINS THE SWISS INTERNATIONAL SCHOOL OF QATAR IN SEPTEMBER 2017 AS THE DIRECTOR OF STUDIES.